Do you know that one person? The person with a million reasons why she can't change her life and move forward? I do. And this is her story.
She's worked every day, for almost ten years, in a job that she's spent the last nine and a half years complaining about. She hates it, hates her boss, hates his expectations and that of her team and colleagues, hates that she has to go in early and always gets stuck there late, hates how it eats into her personal time with the never-ending stream of urgent phone calls and emails, hates that she has to go into work at the weekends to make sure that things happen when they should.
She's been saying for a good five years that she's going to get out, that they'll be sorry when she's gone, that they'll never find anyone that'll put up with the crap like she does, and on, and on, and on. The fact is though, in all that time, she's applied sporadically for only a couple of jobs. When she didn't get them, she quickly resigned herself to the fact that she was stuck in a situation, that she couldn't change, and went right back to moaning about it. Her reasons? She's not good in interviews. She's not confident. She's not clever enough. She doesn't know enough. She can't drive so can't consider anything too far away. What if she gets something and it's even worse? What if she can't manage the work they give her? What if they realise that she's not up to it and they let her go? What if, what if, what if...
So I asked her, "what if you're still doing this in another 10 years?"
"What if, believing that you're not good enough, confident enough, capable enough is actually speaking volumes when you interview?"
"What if when you tell them you can do it, all they can hear is that you can't?"
"What if your current company changes it's structure and you find yourself challenged with work you can't manage there?"
"What if they close the site you work at now and take the decision out of your hands?"
"What if you're blowing your one shot at life in a 60 hour a week habit that's eating you up from the inside out?"
"What if, what if, what if..."
It can be scary to face the truth, but also hugely empowering. So, if you find yourself in a similar predicament, I'd challenge you to ask yourself some serious questions about what you're hanging in there for. Don't kid yourself that it's just the money. It's your fears that hold you captive. And the only person that makes your fears real, is you!
If you're thinking it might be time to move your life forward, to get off the treadmill, to do work that makes your heart sing, then check out my new, online course Quit your job and get a life. There's even a FREE advance webinar to give you a flavour for what it's all about.