“Getting what you want is simple. But it’s not easy.” Mel Robbins
Isn’t this so very true? Often people will tell me that they’ve tried everything to lose weight. Or they’ve tried everything to find a new job. Or they’ve tried everything to find a nice man. Or they’ve tried everything to blah blah blah. But if there’s one thing that I know it’s that, had you tried everything and stuck at it long enough to actually verify whether each approach did or didn’t work, then you’d already have what you want. The very fact that you don’t have it, shows me that either you haven’t tried everything at all, or you haven’t tried the right thing consistently.
The problem with options is that, because of the socially conditioned little box you live in, it’s very difficult to even uncover the kinds of options that exist for you. So, if you’re trying to lose weight, for example, the best you can likely come up with are the things you’ve tried, the things your friends have tried, and the things you’ve seen on TV. So, you join a slimming club, go to the gym, follow this year’s fad diet, buy the latest celebrity fitness DVD or invest in some new piece of amazing exercise equipment. You watch the infomercials, and see a lady posing in her 10-sizes-too-big pants and think, “This is it!” Finally, the answer has arrived.
But is it? The fact is, any of these actions will likely be able to get you the svelte body you’d like, but what happens? You start full of good intentions. You buy new gym clothes, eat uber-healthily, exercise like a crazy woman, and you see the pounds beginning to drop off! “AHAAA…”, you think. “This really is it!”
So, what happens? Well, you think, “I’ve lost 6 pounds, I can allow myself a little treat”. And so you have a little treat. A glass of wine (or three). Perhaps a bar of chocolate or a piece of cake. Maybe a takeaway meal. And you tell yourself, “It’s fine, I’ll be good again, tomorrow”. And, you probably will be. But, in that little “cheat” is a big relinquishment of your commitment. It doesn’t seem like a big deal in the moment, but before you know it, you’re justifying one little treat after another. And, as time goes on, you can’t quite find the energy to climb on your Butt-Master-5000. After all, every time you’ve tried to lose weight before you’ve failed or put it back on afterwards. So what’s the point of starving yourself in the pursuit of some ideal you’ll never be able to live up to?
Well, what is the point? I’d ask you to think back to the day you decided to start the new regime, whether it was a week, month or year ago. If there was no point in trying, then why did you start? What was going through your head on that particular day? That you could do it with this new miracle machine? That you couldn’t wait to flaunt your bikini body on the beach? That, at long last, you’d finally feel the way that you’ve been longing to feel for years? The way that you believe gorgeous slim people feel? Stunning? Confident? Sexy?
As it is, I have a little secret to share with you. The lady on that infomercial, that could have fitted herself and a couple of friends inside of those pants, she stuck at it hard. She didn’t treat herself after losing a few pounds. Because she knew that treating herself was a slippery slope to quitting altogether. And, she got on that Butt-Master every single day, and did her 30 minutes religiously, while watching her favourite soap opera. She did it even on the days when she really didn’t feel like it. She did it when she was crampy and just wanted to curl up on the couch with a coffee and a chocolate bunny. She did it on the days that she was working. And on the days when she wasn’t. She did it when she was in a bad mood – although she did find that the bad moods were fewer and farther between as she started to see serious results and began to feel and look better each day. In fact, as time went on, it got easier and easier because the momentum and the confidence she gained from doing it, even when she didn’t want to, was the difference that made the real difference.
And you can have that same success too. You don’t need new trainers, or to buy the latest and greatest machine. What you do need, is to try something a little different. And, there are a million different things you can try. But, rather than you desperately searching for something that works, I’d like to offer you a tried and tested solution of mine.
That solution is a contract. A binding contract with yourself. Something that will empower you to empower yourself; in a week or a month or whenever the motivation begins to wear off. Something that helps you to clearly remember the reason that you started out in the first place. Something that clearly defines your responsibilities, and the benefits that you can expect to receive in exchange for your dedication. And, lucky for you, I have created a beautiful template that you can use to contract your own success, rather than just leaving it to chance and hoping that you can maintain your motivation. You can download this exclusive free gift from me today, by clicking the button below.
Make sure that when you complete it, you remember to make your terms strict. If you must work out every day, then you must work out every day in the required way and for the required duration. Even if you have a rough day at work. Or have an argument with your partner. Or are tired and frazzled. Commitment is the key to building momentum and confidence. And, if you must have a treat, then contract that treat it in. And make sure, if it’s in your contract, that you have it, even if you don’t fancy it. That way, you’ll be less likely to crave it at other times.
Also, make sure that you make your benefits compelling. Remember, the day you set out on a new plan of action, you have hope and enthusiasm that you probably won’t be able to recall a few weeks later, so communicate that ambition in a way that will still be compelling when you read it later, as you look longingly at the Kit Kats that your other half insists on buying.
Finally, in order to make sure that you are really, really committed. I want you to include a minimum term and a notice period in your contract. So that, should you decide not to stick to it, you have a bit of a cooling off period to reconsider your decision, where you still follow the terms of the contract during that time. So what do you think? Are you up to the challenge? Can you commit this time, instead of getting bored and disheartened once the rush wears off?