Love the Now-You While Creating the New-You

Do you ever find yourself frustrated by where you are? Are you working towards improving your life, career, business, relationships, finances, health, or something else, but the progress just isn’t quick enough? Are you not as far ahead as you’d like to be? Are you trying to stay positive and motivated but actually feel quite annoyed or irritated with yourself and your circumstances?

You see, while you’re putting such a lot of focus into your goals, visualising your successes, and making sure you’re staying on track to achieve what you want, you may be continually judging yourself on the basis that you’re just not there yet. And, how many times can you really be expected to keep making lemonade with those lemons?

Well, let’s face it, life will give you what it will give you, but by continually resisting where you are right now, you’ll find it impossible to bring 100% of your commitment and motivation to achieving your goals, so check out these lovely tips to help you love yourself right now, while still working towards your incredible future!

1. Stop Reacting
When something doesn’t go your way, you need to learn to accept it rather than resisting it. It is not the circumstance, so much as your own resistance to it, that is the source of most of the pain you end up feeling. So, when things aren’t going your way, accept it as if you chose it. Doesn’t sound so easy huh? Well, instead of shouting and screaming, crying, comfort eating/drinking, or quietly seething, try saying, “Yeah, this is just what I needed”. And I don’t mean sarcastically, I mean genuinely. Then you have a choice of what to do with it…

a) Change It
If it’s important, and it’s within your power to change it (in a calm, adult, professional, non-desperate manner only), then look at how you can influence the situation to recover the outcome you were looking for.

b) Move On
If what happens doesn’t seem to have any value or you’re not able to change it then, rather than letting it wind you up, you must simply accept that it is what it is, by just letting it pass you by and carrying on with your day.

c) Use It
Look at what has happened critically to see how you can turn that lemon into orange juice and leave everyone wondering how you did it! You see, there is a learning in literally everything. Client cancels? Seek to understand what you can learn from it. Perhaps there’s something you can tweak, or maybe you’re attracting the wrong kind of clients so might look to change your marketing approach. Associate backs out of a project? Then open the door to find an even better partner for the deal. Kids won’t do as they’re told? Use it as an opportunity to practice your sales negotiating techniques by selling them on what you actually want them to do. Date cancels on you? Use it as an opportunity to have a love in pamper night with yourself. And so on…

2. Stop Judging
Ok, so if you’ve ever looked at someone and judged their lifestyle, behaviour (or their kids behaviour), fashion choices, size, car, relationship, or whatever, then you’re likely to be passing judgement on yourself too. And, sadly, however tough you are on others, you’re probably twice as tough on yourself. But hating on yourself is no way to bring your best self to your efforts. Instead, you must learn to love the person you are, and the circumstances you’re in, right now. After all, you created your life to be exactly as it today. So, if you do catch yourself judging or criticising (yourself or others), don’t give yourself a hard time about it, but just say, “Oops”, smile and forgive yourself.

3. Bring It
Bring your absolute commitment and enthusiasm to everything you do. Make sure when you work, you’re focused and productive, clearly understanding what you’re looking to achieve and when, and eliminate distractions to help you keep on track. Also, listen to others from a place of love, and seek to understand rather than looking to recite your own related anecdote at the first opportunity, or switching off because you’d rather think about what you’re going to be doing in the evening. Give love rather than waiting for others to give it first. Be honest about how you feel, without whining or complaining. Be optimistic and joyous in everything you do, and you will attract and ignite the same in others.

4. Enjoy It
While it’s important to have goals and a plan of working towards them, where you are now is more important than where you’re heading to. So you must make time to smell the roses. Enjoy your life as it is. And suck the joy out of every moment of every day. After all, right now is the only time you’re guaranteed to have!

By living and loving life to the full, accepting what is, and being kind to yourself, you’ll find that your motivation is far easier to maintain, and that your efforts will bear fruit much quicker.

So, choose one way that you’re going to begin releasing your frustrations today, and share it below.

Jo xx