I could hear the knot in her stomach from the other end of the phone.
I recognised it immediately, because I hear it so often in clients, and it was the third time I’d heard it this week.
And when I pointed it out, she was a little surprised. But I knew…
And, I wasn’t at all surprised by the outpouring of fears, frustration and desperation that followed.
Because I remember it so well.
You see, for the first year of my business I believed that if I was constantly pushing and learning and working and pushing, then I would undoubtedly succeed by sheer determination.
But, it just seemed that the harder I worked, the less successful I became.
In fact, it was only when I finally stepped up, and worked with a coach who was WAY ahead of me, that I finally learned how I was repelling clients, repelling money, and repelling the success I was so desperate for.
And that was the biggest problem. I was terrified. And I was desperate. I knew it. And so did everyone else (even if they didn’t consciously realise it).
And because I was desperate, I was sabotaging my success in so many ways that I couldn’t even have begun to fathom. Critically, I was sabotaging my physical and emotional health, which in turn was leading me to sabotage my marketing messages, my sales calls, and even my client sessions.
I was working ridiculous hours, starting before the kids woke up and finishing somewhere between 10pm and 2am, even though I hardly had any clients.
I was snapping at the kids constantly too, because I was exhausted and strung out and couldn’t make time to stop and listen to their stories.
And I was breaking dates with my man because I felt like I HAD to be working (to the point where I was sitting up tweaking my website and creating facebook posts at midnight). I know, ridiculous; right?
And, I’d heard all the stuff that people say about living your success before you achieve it. But I just didn’t get it. I didn’t know how I could feel like I had plenty of clients when I didn’t, how I could feel like I had plenty of money when I couldn’t pay the mortgage, or how I could feel relaxed when I was so desperate.
But, with support, I discovered that I could. And I discovered just how monumental that was.
Because, you see, while you can work on your mindset, set goals, overcome limitations, and start to recognise your true potential; when it comes to seriously raising your game, it’s imperative that you can take yourself to the point where you actually live and breathe your success, before you ever get it, so that you’re CAPABLE OF RECEIVING IT!
Because, you get what you are (and yes, that includes lots of clients who can't afford to pay you).
Now, this is not about affirmations. This is about BELIEF.
And it’s not about asking the universe. Or asking anyone else. It’s about being emotionally available to receive. And, while that sounds a bit woo woo, believe you me, if you’ve been living in a state of lack (money, time, energy, etc) for any length of time, then I am in no doubt that you are completely UNAVAILABLE to receive success.
So, today, start behaving like you already have everything you want. The clients. The money. The reputation. And the lifestyle.
Because, after all, you decided to be an entrepreneur because you wanted freedom, flexibility and choices; right? So start acting like you already do. Get up and show up. But get really honest about what you need to do, in your business, and scrap everything else, so that you can enjoy your freedom.
And, critically, remember to take care of yourself the way you would if you’d already made it.
Because living in lack attracts lack. So get plenty of rest. And have plenty of fun.
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